Friday, October 2, 2015


Ryan and I just got home from running some errands and when we walked inside he threw his shoes against the wall. I asked him to pick them up and put them away nicely. Instead, he went up to his room and shut the door. 

I had to get lunch ready so I welcomed the silence and let him stay upstairs. A few minutes later he came down, marched right up to me and said "I go timeout. I not happy with you. Put my shoes away. I sorry". Then he hugged me. 

On one hand I'm kind of proud that he knew he did something wrong so he went to his room to "think about it" and then when the time was up, acknowledged his behavior and apologized. 

On the other hand, I'm a little concerned that maybe I'm putting him in timeout too often. Is it normal for a two and a half year old to perfect the timeout routine and be able to execute it with no parental assistance??

Thursday, September 17, 2015

Nathan's first car show

Last night Nathan turned up toward me and said "This is the best place I've ever been". We were downtown where the main street had been shut down and nearly 50 vintage cars were parked all along the way for people to come check out. To say Nathan is obsessed with cars is an understatement. He can tell you anything you want to know about any car out there. Porsche. Corvette. Mustang. Chevy Camaro. Honda Odyssey. Toyota Sienna. Hybrid cars. Electric cars. Sports cars. Minivans.  He knows them all. He loves them all.

We've been talking about taking him to a car show forever. And I happened to find out totally last minute that our town was hosting one last night. So I fed the boys a quick dinner at home and then we headed down and spent the next hour exploring. He got to look under the hood and check out the engines. Peek inside and see the leather interiors. He showed me which cars had the flip up headlights and which ones had two exhaust pipes and he especially loved all the fuzzy dice hanging from the rear view mirrors. He had so much fun and kept telling me he never wanted to leave.

As a parent, it's an amazing feeling to see pure joy on your child's face. And tonight was definitely one of those moments. 

Thursday, September 10, 2015

Porch love

The first thing I noticed when we came to see this house was the farmers porch. I immediately imagined sitting out there on Halloween to pass out candy. And being able to sit outside during a rainstorm. Two things I grew up doing on the porch at my parents house. 

It's pouring right now. And this is where I'm hanging out. Next month I'll be out here with a bowl of candy. 

Tuesday, September 1, 2015

Be brave

This has been a very long summer. We moved out of our house in Massachusetts at the end of June. For seven weeks the boys and I shuttled back-and-forth between my in-laws in New York and my parents in MA. Many days were spent outside playing at the beach, at pools and at playgrounds. We had a lot of fun and are grateful that we got to spend so much time with our family and friends before the official move to NJ. 

Two weeks ago we finally moved into the new house. It's a very strange feeling to be in a new house in a new state surrounded by new people. We're fortunate that we've met a few people and everyone's been so friendly and welcoming but most of our days are spent just me and the boys trying to find ways to keep busy. I know it won't be like this forever but for now it feels very lonely.  

So I'm really looking forward to school starting next week.  I'm excited for Nathan to make new friends and I know he'll love kindergarten but that first day ties my stomach into knots.  I am dreading the moment that Will and I have to bring him to school and drop him off knowing that he doesn't know anybody. 

I went out the other night to pick him up some new clothes for school and I saw this shirt. Be Brave. Adventure Awaits. I almost burst into tears. I don't know if this message was meant for Nathan or for me but I needed to hear it. 

I know he will love school. I know he will make friends. I know this place will start to feel like home soon. Until then, we just have to be brave. Our new adventure is about to begin. 

Thursday, July 23, 2015

No gym?

No problem!

Making time to workout is not always easy. After Ryan was born I got into a slump and found every excuse not to workout. I'm too busy. I'm too tired. I'm too lazy!

For almost a year now I've gotten into a good routine and I feel great. One of my good friends starting teaching barre classes and as soon as I tried it, I was hooked. In addition to barre, I do their TRX and cardio kickboxing classes so I never get bored with the same class over and over. The best part is they offer free babysitting so the boys can come with me. We go three times a week and I think all three of us look forward to it. 

But things come up and I can't always make it to the gym so I try to find other ways to workout.  I walk as much as I can with the boys in the stroller. We walk to the Y for swim class. We walk downtown on the weekends for coffee and bagels. We walk the lake. I know some women out there are running with the double stroller and more power to them! Pushing 70 pounds is enough for me while walking, I can't even imagine running. 

I do like running, I just leave the kids at home! I'm definitely more of a jogger than a runner but I find it very peaceful. I love being outside in the sunshine and fresh air. I don't use headphones, I enjoy the rare peace and quiet. In the last few weeks I've even convinced Will to come with me on weekend runs and now we reay look forward to that time together. 

The kids definitely notice that exercise is a big part of mine and Will's life and I think that's important. They pretend to go to the gym, they imitate me and do planks and leg lifts and they love playing with our resistance bands. I want them to grow up being active. Going for walks and bike rides, swimming and hiking. I want them to know exercise can be fun and make you feel good. It doesn't have to be in a gym, it can be anywhere. This morning my mother in law was blowing bubbles and the boys were chasing them around the yard. After ten minutes, they were out of breath. In the yard, we race each other to the tree and back. And now that Nathan is older, he and I go for walks together. 

For me, exercise is a huge stress reliever. It gives me time to think things through and clear my head. It makes me feel good about myself and motivates me to push myself harder the next time. 

I hope Will and I are setting a good example for our kids. Showing them that it's important to find time for yourself and make your health a priority. In the meantime, at least we have very cute workout partners. 

Sunday, June 28, 2015

Pretty as a picture

I am a Type A personality. I like things planned out and scheduled. I like routines. I like straight lines and neat piles. 

Once I had kids I lost a lot of that. I've accepted that my house will always be cluttered. That the laundry will never be caught up. That I'll be always be late (this one is the hardest for me). 

But I've tried to maintain some control. I can't go downstairs in the morning until my bed is made. I refuse to let dirty dishes sit in the sink overnight. And I sweep the floor multiple times a day, trying to keep up with the constant trail of crumbs my children drop on the floor when eating. 

Yesterday I discovered a new way to satisfy my obsessive need for order. Will has always been the one to do this particular household chore. I never had any interest in it and it just kind of became his job. But we were busy so I offered to do it. 

Yesterday I mowed the lawn for the first time. And OMG I discovered my happy hour. I loved everything about it. I was outside in the sunshine. Between the front, side and backyard I got more than 6,000 steps on my FitBit. Nobody was asking me for a drink or a snack. It was so peaceful. 

I loved seeing it go from messy to manicured in seconds. I loved the challenge of making the lines as straight as possible. For someone who loves things to be symmetrical, mowing the lawn provides instant gratification. I think I did a pretty good job for my first try and I'm already thinking of how I can improve the turning radius next time to get tighter turns. 

My house might be messy inside but damn it I have the ability to make my lawn look good! And for a former neat freak, that makes me very happy. 

Saturday, June 27, 2015

Now that Nathan can read and write, it's not unusual to find little notes like this all over the house. 

Nothing like a love note to brighten your day